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NLP coaching - DIrective or Non-directive that is the question


NLP coaching - DIrective or Non-directive that is the question

NLP Coaching Time to change your life Coaching seems to find many names including NLP Coaching, Life Coaching, performance coaching, developmental coaching even hypno-coaching, to name just a few, but the basic premise is still the same “the process of helping another person perform at the peak of his or her abilities”. Our aim is to not jump on the latest trendy wave of change specialists but to build on the solid foundation of originators in the field of coaching including Timothy Gallwey , Sir John Whitmore, Anthony Robbins and others so that you can learn real tangible skills to help both yourself and those you plan to work with

If there is any distinction then that would be between performance coaching and developmental coaching. These could breakdown as follows:

Performance Coaching

Developmental Coaching

Modifies behaviour, learning of new skills,

Focus on external behaviour

Assumes linear change


Modifies beliefs and feelings about self, identity, purpose

Focus on internal representations and frames of mind that effect behaviour

Assumes Systemic change: a change in one part of the system reverberates throughout


Performance coaching is designed to improve performance of a current skill and any new skills that will enhance that performance; it is linear and easily measured against targets.

Developmental coaching develops the person; overcomes limiting beliefs to change behaviours plus aims to develop personal resilience and behavioural flexibility.


This is where the strengths of NLP really show out because it looks at the structure and evidence of limiting beliefs from the viewpoint that when the belief was formed it had a purposeful intention, or if you prefer "for what purpose that behaviour?"


The structured questions in NLP look to enable the client to discover the structure of the skewed beliefs (generalisations, deletions and distortions) - a sort of guided discover if you will - by helping them fill in the gaps in their map. An example would be "I am no good at giving presentations because I can't talk to people". Questions to unravel this could be "how do you know?" or "what is it about talking to people that leads you to believe you can not give presentations?" and so on; no solutions are given only the structure of the belief questioned. This approach is done via the application of the Meta-Model and an understanding of presuppositions (what is presupposed to be true by the statement).


Another key aspect NLP coaching has is not goal setting but actually how to structure well-formed outcomes. They are always stated in the positive (what you want not what you don't want) and an ecology check (what impact with the behavioural change have on them and anyone associated). There are a few more stages but simply put it is not about the destination but the developmental journey.


Once you understand what coaching can give that you don't already have you can choose the most appropriate model. Do you just want to get better, perform better at what you do or do you want to be in more control of how you do things and which direction you move in. Coaching should be like you inner voice that asks the right questions at the right time in the right way not the voice that prods at you and sells you a lie.

Another definition of a coach is vehicle that takes you on a journey, but remember the vehicle can't make the journey only you can.